Do You Have the Traits of a Self-Confident Person?
Self-confidence is one of the most admired attitudes in a person. Employers want self-confident employees because they usually get the work done even in tight situations. Parents hope their children grow up as self-confident individuals. A self-confident person generally has many friends as they are easy and fun to get along with. Even an enemy or competitor grudgingly admires a self-confident person.
What is a self-confident person?
Is he or she the person who would do anything to be the star in any gathering?
Is a self-confident person so sure about his or ideas that it is difficult for them to listen to opposing ideas?
The answer to both questions is a big NO.
Self-confidence is the result of many inherited and acquired traits in a person.
Self-confident persons:
- • believe in their own abilities, strengths and powers and is not burdened by doubts, and low self-esteem. But they do not force their beliefs and ideas on others because they are good and creative in convincing others to their way of thinking. They do not seek the approval of others.
. - believe they are special and has a mission in this world. They expect to be treated well and with respect. They are not afraid or embarrassed to demand for their rights.
. - are ambitious in a realistic way and are open about their aspirations or goals. They believe in their plans and are not embarrassed at all to convince others about the benefits of joining them in reaching the goal. Any failure is considered as a temporary setback or challenge. A self-confident person loves challenges.
. - are shrewd negotiators and are at ease in achieving their goals by managing other people’s strengths and abilities.
. - are competitive and they love reaching their goals and enjoy the success and staying on top.
. - identify themselves with successful, accomplished people. They love reading about and learning from other’s success stories.
. - dream high and act on them. They are able to visualize themselves as successful, popular, the best in whatever they do.
. - accept compliments, praises and admiration with grace.
. - accept themselves as they are. They don’t feel the need to conform with the majority just to be accepted in any group. They are not afraid of disapproval but use criticisms as constructive feedback.
. - are open to new ideas and are willing to discuss them even if the new idea is opposed to their own. They are willing to acknowledge their mistakes and then move on to finish the job.
. - have a sense of humor and this could be why they are not weighted down by the concerns and stress that top ranking people usually have.
. - hardworking, responsible, dependable and always prepared to do the work at hand in the best way possible.
Self-confidence has to be worked on and is not necessarily true in all aspects of a person’s personality. A stage performer may exude all the confidence of a star performer while on stage but may not be confident to be a guest speaker in a symposium on American history. One can not be self-confident without adequate preparation, practice or experience.
Self-confidence is not an attitude that one is born with. For most people, it is developed from childhood. To develop self-confidence, here are some suggestions:
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Study the traits of self-confident persons and make a plan to develop them in your own personality
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Stay away from unhappy, emotional and forever complaining people
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Make a list of your achievements. The list should convince that you have the capability to accomplish something
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Learn by reading, listening and personally from people. Read the biography of successful people and see how their experiences could be applied to your own life.
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Change your attitude such that in any concern, you look for solutions, not problems.
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Don’t just worry about problematic situations. Only action could accomplish solutions.
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Make a list of your goals and consistently act on it. Don’t lose sight of your goals.
It is important for a person to take responsibility for the development of his or her self-confidence. It is a very personal and important undertaking that you can’t just depend on other to do for you.
